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A Sikh Perspective on Love

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“Hear you all, I say thetruth, He who loves alone attains God”

( Tenth Nanak-Dasam Granth)


Sikhi stresses that withoutlove the journey cannot begin, our traditions, practices are empty and useless.There are countless examples in the Siri Guru Granth Sahib of what “to love “is, it is an action, a verb:


Listen my heart, Let thylove be that of the lotus for the pool, though the ripples shake the lotus andtorment it, it flowerth and loveth even more the waters.

Let thy love be that ofthe fish for the water without which they perish.


O mind, love the Lord, as the fish loves the water.

The more the water, the more the happiness, and thegreater the peace of mind and body. Without water, she cannot live, even for aninstant. God knows the suffering of her mind. ||2||


O mind, love the Lord, as the song-bird loves therain.

The pools are overflowing with water, and the landis luxuriantly green, but what are they to her, if that single drop of raindoes not fall into her mouth?

By His Grace, she receives it; otherwise, becauseof her past actions, she gives her head. ||3


O mind, love the Lord, as the water loves the milk.

The water, added to the milk, itself bears theheat, and prevents the milk from burning. God unites the separated ones withHimself again, and blesses them with true greatness. ||4||


O mind, love the Lord, as the chakvee duck lovesthe sun.

She does not sleep, for an instant or a moment; thesun is so far away, but she thinks that it is near.Understanding does not cometo the self-willed manmukh. But to the Gurmukh, the Lord is always close. ||5||

(SGGS, Siri Raag pg 59)


The Sikh Scripturesreinforces “When you cannot see God in all you cannot see God all” It is clearthen that we have to been in love to see God in all.

Love is physical, mental, emotional and spiritual grace. Love is beingconscious of the relationship of your being with the universe. Love has noconditions, no boundaries, it is all encompassing, love is limitless.


When a Sikh has committed to the spiritual teachings written in the SGGSand the instructions given by the ten Gurus he has sworn to live love. “It isnot in temples nor churches but in a mans own shrine of the heart within, wherehe, having cast off all outer clothes of piety and impiety, of evil and of good,enters into the pure nudity of soul, and sees face to face His personal God,his Guru.” (Puran Singh-Spirit born people)


There is a unique concept in Sikhi, in which to surrender to the Gurucould be compared to an ultimate love affair, almost a loving death. We giveourselves completely, our mind, body and soul is given to Guru. It is the deathof the ego, there is no more me, I but “thuhi” or thine.



If we can imagine that there is a lotus abloom in the shrine of theheart.

To the one in love, his eyes like live bees hover within. A millionflowers may beckon them away but they are fixed, unable to move away. Theycannot fly, satiated, drunk and drinking the light of the lotus, they are deadyet alive. Love is contentment, living inwards, with open eyes yet seeingnothing on the outside.


Have you seen the eyes of Beethoven? It is a rare spiritual intensity.The love transmutes all sorrows into the flames of life. (Puran Singh-SpiritBorn People)

Sikhs are instructed todevelop relationships, live as householders, integrate in society and learn tolove but the key is to remain unattached.

There is fine line between“Moh” (attachment) and love, there is no “need” in love.

Pure love is not dependenton anything, anyone or any circumstance.

For example, parents lovetheir children but if there is any other motive or expectation of what isexpected of them underlining, then it is attachment and no longer love. Sikhparents are taught that they are merely the vehicle the tool used for the soulto arrive, the children born to them are not their property, they belong to thecreator and parental responsibility is to love them and keep them safe fromharm. They must love them but keep them free and allow them to develop theinner gifts bestowed upon them by the divine. Those that have understood whatlove in Sikhi is will allow their young to blossom, they will nourish, nurtureand support their loved ones in becoming what they aspire to be withoutprojecting onto them their own motives. This is a difficult act and ofteninvolves sacrifice, from sleepless nights to earning money for their tuitionfees but all this effort becomes effortless when done in love.


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